ABOUT ME
How I See People
When someone sits with me, something eases. They stop managing how they sound. They stop bracing for being misunderstood. There’s often a quiet moment where they realize they don’t have to organize themselves or get it “right” in order to be taken seriously.
I’m attentive to how people learned to stay composed, capable, or in control because that’s what their life required. I notice the steadiness they rely on, including perfectionism or over functioning that helped them succeed, and the cost of maintaining it. I don’t experience the parts of people that feel messy, rigid, frightened, or conflicted as problems. I experience them as intelligent responses to something real. Parts that made sense when they formed, even if they no longer fit the life someone is living now.
The way I work comes from years of being with people in the middle of things that are hard to name and harder to live through. I’ve worked in inpatient mental health, alongside adults with intellectual and developmental disabilities, with individuals and couples under real financial pressure, and with organizations and businesses where personal patterns quietly shape how people relate, decide, and lead. I’ve also spent years on the other side of authority, having to explain and defend what I knew to be true about my own body and my child’s health, even when clarity, preparation, and competence weren’t enough to be believed.
Because of that, I don’t rush people, reinterpret them, or reduce their experience to something easier to hear. I’m comfortable staying present when things are unclear, emotionally charged, contradictory, or slow to make sense. People don’t need to convince me that their experience is valid, and they don’t need to present a polished or high-functioning version of themselves to be understood.
Sitting with me isn’t about being fixed or reassured. It’s about being seen clearly and fully, without being judged or hurried toward change. We look at the whole of someone’s experience together, not just thoughts and emotions, but how their body, health, stress, environment, and history are interacting with all of it. The competence and the exhaustion. The clarity and the confusion. The certainty they rely on and the places where it costs them, so they don’t have to make sense of themselves alone.
The work isn’t about telling someone who they should be or what they should do next. It’s about understanding themselves clearly, including the parts they’ve learned to control, perfect, or push through, so they can make decisions that actually fit who they are and how they live. I stay with people while they sort through that, steadily and honestly.